Woimba Mark Orlov - pafupi ndi mfundo zazikulu za 5 zomwe muyenera kuzidziwa ngati mukufuna kupambana anthu ndikuwatsogolera ndi inu pamaso pa WomanHit.ru.
Luso lodziwonetsera nokha ndilofunika kwambiri kwa aliyense amene amati ndi wopambana. Izi sizikugwira ntchito pa ntchito yanu yokha, komanso pa moyo wanu waumwini komanso wamagulu. Nazi mfundo zazikulu 5 zomwe zingathandize kupambana anthu ndikuwatsogolera ndi inu.
1. Sungitsani
Kumwetulira moona mtima ndi chimodzi mwa zinthu zokopa kwambiri za munthu. Itha kuwunikira malo okuzungulirani, kupanga mpweya wabwino ndikupangitsa anthu kukhala omasuka komanso omasuka pamaso panu. Ngakhale m’nthaŵi ino ya zinyalala, kumwetulira kofika m’maso n’kofunika kwambiri pa zimene munthu akuona poyamba ndipo kumasonyeza chikondi, kukoma mtima, ndi chifundo. Kumwetulira ndi maso komanso pakamwa kungakuthandizeni kuti muoneke ngati ndinu woona mtima komanso wodalirika. Kuti munthu amwetulire, ganizirani zimene zimakusangalatsani.
2. Kuwona ndi maso
Kuyang'ana maso nthawi yoyamba mukakumana ndi munthu kapena omvera ndikofunikira. Maso oyendayenda nthawi zambiri amawonedwa ngati opanda ubwenzi ndipo amapereka chithunzi chakuti mukuyesera kupeza wina wokondweretsa kulankhula naye. Kuyang'ana pansi kungakupangitseni kuwoneka osatetezeka, ndipo kusuntha maso anu m'mwamba ndi pansi pa thupi la winayo kungawoneke ngati kofunika.
Kusamala ndikofunikira pankhani ya kuyang'ana maso, ndipo muyenera kupewa kuyang'anitsitsa munthu winayo. Gwiritsani ntchito "njira yamakona atatu" mukamajambula makona atatu ozungulira m'maso ndi mkamwa mwa interlocutor. Pokambirana, mutha kuyang'ana kuchokera ku mfundo imodzi ya makona atatu kupita ku ina masekondi 5-10 aliwonse. Izi zidzakupangitsani kuwoneka okondweretsedwa komanso kutenga nawo mbali pamutu womwe mukukambirana.
3. Maonekedwe
Zingaoneke ngati zopanda chilungamo, koma zoona zake n’zakuti tonsefe timaweruzana potengera maonekedwe awo. Mosasamala kanthu za kukula kwanu, chiwerengero, kapena zaka, kusamalira maonekedwe anu ndi kuvala zovala zoyenera zidzakupangitsani kuti mukhale ndi chidwi choyamba.
Kusankha zovala ndi chida champhamvu cholumikizirana mukakumana ndi anthu atsopano kwa nthawi yoyamba. Nkhani yabwino ndiyakuti ngakhale kusintha kwakung'ono kungakulitse mwayi wanu wokhala ndi chidwi. Izi zikuphatikizapo kufananiza chovala chanu ndi mwambowu, kugwiritsa ntchito mitundu yomwe ikugwirizana ndi inu, ndi kusankha zovala zanu mosamala.
Chisamaliro chaumwini ndi ukhondo zimagwiranso ntchito yofunika kwambiri pa maonekedwe athu onse, choncho musaiwale kumvetsera mano, tsitsi, manja ndi misomali.
4. Chilankhulo cha thupi
Kukhala chete kumalankhula kwambiri. Timalankhulana ndi zambiri osati mawu chabe. Maonekedwe a nkhope yathu, manja ndi kaimidwe zimasonyezanso zizindikiro zosiyanasiyana tikamalankhula ndi anthu ena. Kafukufuku amasonyeza kuti mpaka 60-70% ya chidziwitso cha kulankhulana kwa anthu chimapangidwa ndi zizindikiro zopanda mawu. Ngakhale zili choncho, anthu ambiri saganizira za thupi lawo ndipo sadziwa kuti akutumiza zizindikiro zosakanizika kapena zoipa.
Kusamalira chiyankhulo cha thupi lanu kudzakuthandizani kusintha ndi kupanga chidwi choyamba. Nthawi zonse mukakumana ndi munthu watsopano, kumbukirani izi:
- Pewani kutsekereza malo omwe ali patsogolo panu podutsa manja anu kapena kuyika chikwama chanu pamiyendo yanu.
- Chepetsani mayendedwe ovuta monga kuluma zikhadabo, kuimba ndi zala zanu, kapena kusewera ndi tsitsi lanu.
- Yang'anani momwe mumakhalira, osazembera kapena kutsamira pampando wanu.
- Sonyezani kuti mukumvetsera mwa kugwedeza mutu ndikutsamira patsogolo pang'ono.
5. Kusunga nthawi
Kusunga nthawi kumasonyeza ulemu ndi ulemu kwa anthu ena. Mukachedwa pa tsiku, msonkhano wa bizinesi, kapena kusonkhana kwa banja, zimadziwitsa ena kuti nthawi yanu ndiyofunika kwambiri kuposa yawo.
Tonse timadziwa munthu mmodzi yemwe sangakhale pa nthawi yake. Mwina inunso mumavutika ndi kuchedwa kwanthawi yaitali. Kuchitapo kanthu kuti muwongolere kasamalidwe ka nthawi yanu kumabweretsa phindu lalikulu pa moyo wanu waumwini komanso waukadaulo.
Chithunzi: Mark Orlov
