Indoda okanye ikati imazi ukuthatha? Ngaba oku kubaluleke kakhulu? Ukuba awucingi njalo, ngokucacileyo awukabikho kudidi “lokubanjiswa yikati”. Kukho umahluko, kwaye unzima.
Nangona baye bahlala nabantu amawaka eminyaka, iikati azifuywa ngokupheleleyo.
Ukongeza, zizilwanyana zommandla kunye nababodwa, kwaye oku kuthetha ukuba, ngokungafaniyo nenja, iimpawu zomntu ngamnye, kuquka isini, zibaluleke kakhulu kuba ikati izimisele ngakumbi ukuphulaphula ithuku lakhe kunomnini wayo. Yaye ubukhulu becala indlela aziphatha ngayo ixhomekeke ekubeni uyindoda okanye ibhinqa.
Umahluko ocacileyo kukuba iikati zamadoda zikhulu, zineentloko ezinkulu kunye neempuphu. Ukuba uthanda iikati ngemibala emithathu - emhlophe, emnyama kunye ne-orenji - ezi zibhinqa, kwaye amadoda le ndibaniselwano inqabile kakhulu. Kwelinye icala, ikati enemigca e-orenji okanye e-orenji-namhlophe kusenokwenzeka ukuba ibe yindoda.
Njengomlingiswa, iikati zizimeleyo, azithandi kwaye zincinci ukufuna ingqalelo. Ikati ayinakufane ishiywe iphululwa kwaye igoqwe ukuba ayifuni. Akanyamezeli iinkosi kwaye uzigqibela nini ukuba akuvumele ukuba uphulule, udlale kwaye umondle. Ukuba uzama ukumbamba ngaphandle kokuba afune, unokuba nomsindo, kwaye ngokukhawuleza kwaye ngokukhawuleza.
Ekubeni ikhaya liyindawo apho izithatha njengenkosi, ikati ibeka iliso elibukhali yonke into eyenzekayo kulo kwaye ibonisa umdla omkhulu malunga naluphi na utshintsho. Utyekele ngakumbi ekufundisiseni abantu aze abalandele ukuze abagcine bephantsi kolawulo. Ngamanye amazwi, ukuba wenza into ethile, ikati ngokuqinisekileyo iya kungenelela kwaye iphazamise nawe.
Ukuba ufuna i-fluff purring emathangeni akho, kungcono ukujolisa kwikati yabasetyhini.
Yena, ngokungafaniyo nekati, uya kukulandela kuyo yonke indawo, ukuze azisonge kuwe xa uhleli okanye ulala. Ukuba ikati ayinangqondo kwaye inamandla, ikati inamandla ngakumbi kwaye inobuqili ekulawuleni ummandla wayo naphezu kwakho. Ufuna i-caress, ilandele indoda, ihlikihle kwaye imkhothe kwaye ihlala isondele.
Ukongeza, ngale ndlela unxibelelana ngakumbi, ngokungafaniyo nekati, edla ngokuma kude.
Ngenxa yobume obuzimeleyo beekati, zifanelekile ngakumbi kubantu abangekho rhoqo okanye imini yonke - oku akuyi kubakhathaza kakhulu.
Ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokusilahla isilo-qabane sakho esitsha - nto leyo ekucetyiswa kakhulu kuzo zombini izini - utyando lwamadoda lulula kwaye alubonakali kangako - bayawasusa amasende, ngelixa abafazi kufuneka basuse isibeleko kunye namaqanda.
Utyando lwamatyhalarha yinkqubo elula kakhulu kwaye ayifuni nokuthungwa, ngelixa ukuthenwa kwekati yasetyhini kufuna iintsuku ezininzi zokuchacha. Ngezizathu ezicacileyo, ukuthenwa kwekati eyindoda kunexabiso eliphantsi kunelo lomfazi. Kuzo zombini iimeko, nangona kunjalo, i-anesthesia isetyenziswa.
Kuhle ukukhumbula ukuba iikati zabasetyhini zinokukhulelwa emva kweenyanga ezi-5. Nangona kunjalo, ukuvala inzala kuyacetyiswa kwixesha elizayo - malunga nenyanga yesithandathu, xa iphuhliswe ngokupheleleyo. Ngoko ke, ukuba awuwafuni amantshontsho ekati, akufanele ukhuphe ikati.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba awufuni ukulahla ikati yakho, kukho umahluko kwindlela amadoda kunye nabasetyhini abasasazeke ngayo, nangona kuzo zombini iimeko imeko iphantse inganyamezeleki.
Amadoda aqala ukuphawula intsimi ngomchamo kunye neemfihlo, kwaye ivumba libi kwaye lihlala ixesha elide. Iinjongo, kwelinye icala, kukutsala amabhinqa asasazekileyo kwaye, kwelinye icala, ukubonisa abo banokuba ngabakhuphisi ukuba le yinto yabo. Umphumo uba livumba elingafunwa mntu ekhaya.
Amadoda kunokwenzeka ukuba achame ngaphandle kwezindlu zangasese zawo - kwakhona ukuphawula indawo - kwaye angaqhubeka ekwenza oko nokuba athenelwe.
Ukongeza, iikati ezingabethelwanga zifuna ukubaleka ekhaya kwaye zibhadule. Baphinde babe ndlongondlongo ngendalo.
Iikati zabasetyhini aziphawuli, kodwa xa zileqa, ziqala ukukhwaza kakhulu, kwaye kwabanye oku kunokuhlala rhoqo kwaye kunokwenza nabani na aphambene. Kwaye, ewe, ukuba “ziwisiwe” okanye umnini wazo akakwazi kuyimela ingxolo aze azinike ikati, kukho – phantse aqinisekisiwe – amantshontsho ekati angasoloko ephiwa lula.
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Nangona kunjalo, akufanele ilityalwe ukuba ezi zisezimpawu ezinemiqathango, kwaye iikati zizilwanyana ezigwenxa kwaye zihlala zimangalisa ngento engalindelekanga. Kodwa ukuba ufuna ikati kwaye ucinga ukuba ulungele ukwamkela indima yekhoboka kwaye kungekhona inkosi - ngoko uya kugwinya izinto ezicacileyo zesini sakhe.
