Uburharha kuthiwa bubonisa ngokucacileyo ubukrelekrele bomntu. Kwaye ukuba akukho nto yimbi, ibonisa ngokucacileyo ukuguquguquka komsebenzi wengqondo, imvakalelo yenyaniso kunye nobuxoki, ubulumko kunye nokomoya.
Kodwa ngaba umntu ozelwe enoburharha? Ngaba ikhutshiwe?
Umntu uqala nini ukuhleka?
Uburharha sisinongo sobomi. Ngaba uye wakha wazibuza xa imvakalelo iqala ukukhula kwaye xa umntwana eqala ukuqonda amahlaya? Iingcali zenzululwazi ekugqibeleni zifumene impendulo - kwaye kwenzeka ngokumangalisayo ekuqaleni kwenkqubo yophuhliso!
Mhlawumbi uye wazibuza xa kanye umntwana wakho uya kuqala ukuqonda iziqhulo zakho, okanye naxa baya kuqalisa ukuqhula iziqhulo ngokwabo okokuqala. Iqela lezazinzulu zinomdla wokufumana kwaye ngoko bagqiba ekubeni bafunde nzulu.
Iqela lophando elivela kwiYunivesithi yasePortsmouth lifumene ukuba umntwana unokusebenzisa imbonakalo yobuso okanye izandi ezahlukeneyo ukusuka kwiinyanga ezi-7-8 ubudala ukwenza ngamabomu abantu abadala bahleke, kubhala i-BBC.
Ngokuthe ngcembe abantwana baba noburharha
Njengokuba abantwana bephuhlisa intelekelelo, intetho kunye nokuqonda, baye baphuhlise uburharha kunye nokukwazi ukuqaphela ukuba usanda kwenza isiqhulo.
Iingcali ziqaphela ukuba esi santya sisodwa kumntwana ngamnye, kodwa sinokushwankathela izigaba zomntu ngamnye kwaye ngaloo ndlela sinike ubuncinci ulwahlulo oluqikelelwayo lwendlela uburharha bomntwana bukhula ngayo. Olu qokelelo luvela kwiBBC:
Iinyanga ze-3-4
Iintsana ziqala ukuhleka xa zineenyanga ezi-3 ubudala. Ngeli xesha, ukuvakalelwa okubonakalayo kunokubangela ukuhleka, ngokuyininzi ekuphenduleni izinto ezibonakalayo ezifana ne-grimace eyenziwa ngabazali babo. Basenokufumana izandi ezihlekisayo.
Iinyanga ze-7-8
Njengoko besitshilo ekuqaleni, ngeli xesha umntwana ufunda ukusebenza ngembonakalo yobuso, ilizwi okanye intshukumo yomzimba ukuze enze abazali bahleke. Kweli nqanaba sinokubona ubungqina bokuphindaphinda okuqaphela: xa umntwana wakho esenza into ehlekisayo, unokuphinda ayenze kwakhona.
Iinyanga ze-9-10
Ngeli xesha, unokuqaphela rhoqo ukuba uncumo luya kubonakala ebusweni babo xa benza into abangafanele bayenze. Yile ndlela abaqala ngayo ukukhulisa uburharha “bokuqhula”.
1 kunyaka
Ngeli xesha, unokuqaphela ngakumbi ukuba xa umntwana esenza "ububi", uya kubonakala ekholisekile kuye. Kodwa into enomdla ngokwenene kweli nqanaba kukuba sele iqalile ukuhlukanisa amahlaya akho okwenene kwi "sarcasm": umzekelo, xa uceba ukusela kwibhotile yakhe.
iminyaka 2
Ngokusekelwe ekuphuhliseni isigama somntwana, sinokubona iinzame zokuqala zokuvakalisa iziqhulo ngomlomo kule minyaka. Ke, njengoko ubona, baqonda uburharha ngazo zonke iindlela kwangoko kakhulu - kwaye mhlawumbi kwangaphambi kokuba ubucinga.
Ngaba ngandlel’ ithile sinokuhlakulela uburharha?
Njengoko kukhankanyiwe ngasentla, kwanomntwana omncinci unokuncuma, kodwa ke, unokunceda ukuphuhlisa obu buchule ukususela kwiinyanga zokuqala.
Imidlalo eyahlukeneyo okanye imizobo eyonwabisayo inokuba yinto entle kuwe kunye nomntwana wakho ukuba nibe nethuba lokuhleka imifanekiso osandula ukuyenza.
Xa usana lwakho lukhulile, enye indlela entle yokuphuhlisa uburharha kukubukela okanye ukufunda amabali ahlekisayo. Umzekelo, emva kokufunda ibali, unokubuza umntwana wakho ukuba kukho nantoni na eyenze ukuba ahleke ebalini, okanye ukuba anokucinga ngento ehlekisayo enokuthethwa ngomnye wabalinganiswa.
