Umculi u-Mark Orlov - mayelana namaphuzu abalulekile angu-5 okudingeka ukwazi ngawo uma ufuna ukunqoba abantu futhi ubahole nawe phambi kwe-WomanHit.ru.
Ikhono lokuzethula lingelinye elibaluleke kakhulu kunoma ubani othi uphumelele. Lokhu akusebenzi emsebenzini wakho kuphela, kodwa nasempilweni yakho yomuntu siqu neyenhlalo. Nawa amaphuzu angu-5 abalulekile azosiza ukunqoba abantu futhi abahole nawe.
I-1. Smile
Ukumamatheka okuqotho kungesinye sezici ezikhanga kakhulu zomuntu. Ingakhanyisa ngokoqobo indawo ekuzungezile, idale umoya omuhle futhi yenze abantu bazizwe bekhululekile futhi bekhululekile lapho ukhona. Ngisho nakule nkathi yezifihla-buso, ukumamatheka okufinyelela emehlweni kuyingxenye eyinhloko yokubona kuqala futhi kudlulisela imfudumalo, umusa, nozwela. Ukumamatheka ngamehlo akho kanye nangomlomo wakho kungakusiza ubonakale njengomuntu oqotho nothembekile. Ukuze wenze omunye umuntu amomotheke, cabanga ngokuthile okukujabulisa kakhulu.
2. Ukubonana ngamehlo
Ukusungula ukuthintana kwamehlo okokuqala ngqa uhlangana nomuntu noma izethameli kubalulekile. Amehlo azulazulayo avame ukubonwa njengangenabungane futhi anikeze umbono wokuthi uzama ukuthola othile okuthakaselekayo ukukhuluma naye. Ukubheka phansi kungakwenza ubonakale ungavikelekile, futhi ukuhambisa amehlo akho phezulu naphansi emzimbeni womunye umuntu kungase kubonakale kuwukuhlola.
Ibhalansi ibalulekile uma kuziwa ekubhekeni amehlo, futhi kufanele ugweme ukugqolozela omunye umuntu. Sebenzisa "isu elingunxantathu" lapho udweba unxantathu ohlanekezelwe ozungeza amehlo nasemlonyeni we-interlocutor. Phakathi nengxoxo, ungabheka ukusuka kwelinye iphuzu likanxantathu uye kwelinye njalo ngemizuzwana emi-5-10. Lokhu kuzokwenza ubukeke unentshisekelo futhi ubambe iqhaza esihlokweni okuxoxwa ngaso.
I-3. Ukubukeka
Kungase kubonakale kungalungile, kodwa iqiniso liwukuthi sonke sahlulelana ngokubukeka kwabo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi usayizi wakho, isibalo, noma ubudala bakho, ukunakekela ukubukeka kwakho nokugqoka izingubo ezifanele kuzokwenza umbono omuhle wokuqala.
Ukukhetha izingubo kuyithuluzi elinamandla lokuxhumana lapho uhlangana nabantu abasha okokuqala ngqa. Izindaba ezinhle ukuthi ngisho nezinguquko ezincane zingandisa amathuba akho okwenza umbono omuhle. Lokhu kufaka phakathi ukufanisa ingubo yakho nesenzakalo, ukusebenzisa imibala evumelana nawe, nokukhetha izesekeli zakho ngokucophelela.
Ukunakekelwa komuntu siqu kanye nenhlanzeko nakho kunendima ebalulekile ekubukekeni kwethu jikelele, ngakho-ke ungakhohlwa ukunaka amazinyo akho, izinwele, izandla nezinzipho.
4. Ulimi lomzimba
Ukuthula kungakhuluma kakhulu. Sixhumana ngaphezu kwamagama nje. Isimo sobuso bethu, ukuthinta komzimba kanye nokuma nakho kudlulisa izimpawu ezihlukene lapho sikhuluma nabanye abantu. Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi kuze kufike ku-60-70% wolwazi lokuxhumana kwabantu lwakhiwe ngamasignali angakhulumi. Naphezu kwalokhu, abantu abaningi abacabangi ngomzimba wabo futhi abazi ukuthi bathumela izimpawu ezixubile noma ezimbi.
Ukunaka ulimi lwakho lomzimba kuzokusiza ukuthi ulungise futhi wenze umbono omuhle wokuqala. Noma nini lapho uhlangana nomuntu omusha, khumbula lokhu:
- Gwema ukuvala isikhala esiphambi kwakho ngokuphambana izingalo noma ukubeka isikhwama sakho emathangeni akho.
- Nciphisa ukunyakaza okuxakayo njengokuluma izinzipho, ukushaya isigubhu ngeminwe yakho, noma ukudlala ngezinwele zakho.
- Buka ukuma kwakho, ungasheshi noma uncike esihlalweni sakho.
– Khombisa ukuthi ulalele ngokunqekuzisa ikhanda nokuncika kancane.
5. Ukugcina isikhathi
Ukugcina isikhathi kubonisa inhlonipho nenhlonipho kwabanye abantu. Uma uphuze ukufika kosuku, umhlangano webhizinisi, noma ukuhlangana komndeni, kwenza abanye bazi ukuthi isikhathi sakho sibaluleke kakhulu kunesabo.
Sonke sazi okungenani umuntu oyedwa ongakwazi ukufika ngesikhathi. Mhlawumbe nawe unenkinga yokubambezela isikhathi eside. Ukuthatha izinyathelo zokuthuthukisa ukuphatha isikhathi sakho kuzokulethela izinzuzo ezinkulu empilweni yakho yomuntu siqu neyomsebenzi.
Isithombe: Mark Orlov
